A number of years ago, Paul and I started doing book studies as a family. We wanted to introduce our kids to books that have been impactful in our lives and this seemed like a great way to do it.
For our first book, we read it before bedtime every night. The kids could only handle so much of the Four Agreements at once (being young and used to fiction), so it took quite a while. For our next book, we realized that if I read it in the car, it would go a lot more quickly. That one was called 3 Simple Steps.
Several books later, we’re onto the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. Every so often, I’ll read a little snippet of it and then we discuss what stood out for each of us.
I learned a great little tip that I’ve been implementing and so I wanted to share it with you (because anything that makes a difference is totally worth spreading the word, n’est ce pas?).
Gretchen has a number of commandments for herself and here’s one that I especially...
After years of renting (which I totally love because any home issues are never really our problem…), we’re getting back into the home ownership game. My husband would rather own and since I’ve gotten my way for years, it’s his turn. (I know; I’m soooo nice.)
Serendipitously, to help with our downpayment, we received an inheritance from my grandma, so everything has been lining up beautifully.
Except for the actual house. We’re getting a very good lesson in divine timing. If it were my timing, we’d be moving next week. However, since it’s up to the Universe, it’s clearly not time yet, because we haven’t found the ideal home.
We’ve found a lot of homes that make for great stories, though. Let me share a couple with you.
On Saturday night, we went to see a few potential places. I had really high hopes. They seemed great in the pictures and mostly they were. The main issue with the first two options (which...
First off, a tout petit reminder that we’ve got our ½ Year Review coming up this Saturday, June 25 and you’re invited. It’s a complimentary call starting at 9:00am Mountain/8:00am Pacific and you can expect to:
In other news, here’s something that’s been in my awareness lately:
The way others treat you is a direct reflection of how you treat yourself. Which part of yourself, you may ask? Well, it’s the part of you that’s very young, that’s all about feeling and that’s looking for your unconditional love.
As a general rule, people tend to treat that young and feeling part of themselves pretty poorly. There’s a lot of ignoring, abandoning and shunning.
You probably can’t imagine...
You’ve probably been waiting on pins and needles, wondering: When is Christina going to be doing her Half Year Review?!? (Well, now that I consider that slightly disturbing phrase, you most likely haven’t been waiting on actual pins and needles, because a) who has that many pins and needles around anymore? and b) ouch!)
Regardless of how you’ve been waiting, sharp implements or not, never fear because it’s right around the corner and you’re invited!
I’m hosting a complimentary community call on Saturday June 25th creatively titled The 1/2 Year Review. (At least you know exactly what it is.)
If you feel like:
… then this call will help you get a handle on things.
One of the key teachings in Courageous Self-Care is to create a better...
Back when I was a high school teacher, I learned an important lesson doing report cards. (I didn't know it was self-care gold at the time... I don't think I even knew what self-care was.) Anyways, as I sat there one day, determining how to comment on various kids’ behaviour in class, I developed a system.
It became evident that the kids who were the most successful in the dance and PE classes I taught did things consistently. Then there were the kids who did things frequently. They had reasonable levels of success. The kids who struggled either had beneficial behaviours sometimes or rarely.
When it comes to self-care or self-improvement, there are some takeaways here. On the report cards, as in life, it was best to avoid the absolutes of always and never. Always just seems like too much to ask (because it doesn’t allow for the flow of life to happen) and never generally isn’t true.
For ultimate success, consistently or frequently are very gentle and...
A few months ago, I read Mud, Sweat and Tears by Bear Grylls (which was a great read; adventure and inspiration mixed with life lessons; always a great combo).
One of the key points I took away was something that one of his friends said to him. To paraphrase, it went along the lines of: If it’s in your heart, when something is important, there is often a birth, a death and a resurrection.
Boy, can I relate to that! I’ve had so many births and deaths when it comes to projects, self-care activities, and other commitments I’ve made to myself.
What I really love is the idea of the resurrection. If something that has “died” keeps coming back to you as an idea or an awareness, it’s meant to be resurrected.
For example, yoga is important to me. I’ve built up the capacity to get on the mat every day for at least a few sun salutations. And yet, for a few weeks, I just didn’t have it in me to do longer classes. It was kind of like...
Love is always trying to expand in our lives. The more love you can infuse into everyday moments, the less pain you’ll have; both emotionally and physically.
So that seems like a pretty good reason to see how you can bring more love in, right?
I love learning so I’m always taking courses and reading. Here are 2 ways that I’ve been infusing more love into my life in the past few weeks.
Love Experiment #1
Recently I read The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer. Highly recommended. Here’s one of my takeaways.
So much of what takes you out of love is when you’re attached to your preferences. If you can let go of your preferences and let life take the lead, love will flow in unprecedented ways.
To make this super practical, Michael explains that you can use the weather as an example.
The other day, at my daughter’s track meet, it was gale force winds and sideways rain for most of her javelin event. Clearly, my preference would have been...
Life can be filled with little disappointments and losses. If you have a habit of sweeping those under the rug (either purposefully with positive thinking or inadvertently by suppressing or just not paying attention) those little losses can really add up.
A few weeks ago, one of our favourite restaurants closed. It was our family go-to and we loved the food, the atmosphere and the owner. Now it’s gone and that’s sad. It got me to thinking how so many parts of my life only exist in my memory because things have changed in the outer world.
Most of the places I worked growing up are gone. Places that I loved going to with my kids when they were little have vanished or gotten updated. Friends that I was once really close with have moved on.
While it’s all well and good to be optimistic and positive, if you don’t take time to grieve the little losses, they will collectively create a big block in your energy field caused by unresolved emotion, so...
Where are you at with reminders?
Do you love them/loathe them or feel indifferent?
In our home, the word reminder conjures up different experiences for different people. I thought it would be fun to do a little dissection and share it with you. There are three points that come to mind.
Reminders Point #1
Our beloved almost-14-year-old son Oakley loathes the word reminders. Why? Because our expectation for our kids is to do a daily meditation and daily energy routine. Altogether it takes about 10 minutes and Oakley has an intense resistance to this agreement. (Probably because he never really agreed to it…) Nonetheless, as parents, we insist that it’s very important to connect with the higher self/silence every day by meditating and to decrease stress/increase immunity by doing the energy routine.
We also feel that it’s important to drink water first thing, brush teeth and to breathe deeply when experiencing intense emotions. Call us unreasonable but that’s...
Do you try really hard but don’t get the results you would expect for all the effort you’re putting in?
Would you say you’re a good student of life but you’re kind of (secretly) disappointed in how the Universe shows up for you?
Are you on a spiritual path but it just seems to be going reeeaallllly sloooooowwwwwllly?
That’s definitely where I was a few years ago. Pre-pandemic, really. I was doing all the things I’d been taught to do (meditation, gratitude, yoga, breathwork, journaling, etc) and yet it felt like A LOT of effort for kind of mediocre results.
Then we went into isolation and it was a huge gift because all of a sudden, I had time to do a course I’d been gifted called The Energy Codes, with Dr Sue Morter. It had sat in the ethers for many months but with us not going anywhere, Presto! - I made it happen.
And I fell in love. It felt like I had finally come home. Like everything I’d done up to that point had led me to that...