Have you ever had something happen where you knew you wanted to let it go, but try as you might, your pesky mind kept bringing it up?
You may have reached deep down into your personal development toolkit and used some strategies, but to no avail. The energy of that something just seemed to linger and bring you down.
“What’s going on with that?” you might ask yourself. “Shouldn’t I be able to move through this kind of situation by now? Hasn’t all the work I’ve invested in myself made a difference? How annoying!!!”
So why does this kind of thing happen? What’s actually going on?
I’ve got some ideas. Two of them to be precise.
I was driving in the car to the farmers market the other day, listening to my daughter’s playlist with her, and a really powerful song came on, called “It’s a Beautiful Life” by Billy Raffoul. She had introduced me to the song a couple weeks before. Tearjerker! Take a...
Funny story (followed by some philosophical musings).
Last week, I boldly declared that I was going to imagine a big sign in the sky that said “Trust Me”. Remember the nice picture I made with the airplane sign?
Not a day later, our car got broken into. Things got stolen.
“Still trust me?” asked the Universe.
Can we say crossroads?
The answer to that question seemed super important.
Was I going to yell into the sky, “Why God? Whyyyyy?” (à la Joey from Friends).
Or was I going to let the incident roll off me like water off an aardvark’s back? (It just seemed less cliché than a duck.)
Interestingly, I got my answer from my body. When we first discovered that someone had been in our car, parked right outside our place in daylight (and then dusklight), I had no physical reaction. Not a twinge. Not a tightening. Nothing.
It just didn’t seem like that big a deal. Sure my husband’s designer sunglasses were gone...
I’m reading this fantastic book I found in a Little Library, called the Story of Sushi (by Trevor Corson, in case you want to read it too). It’s super interesting! Within the context of students attending a sushi-making school in California, there are all sorts of bits of history about fermentation, rice, seaweed, soy sauce, and even how the plastic green leaf in your box of takeout sushi came to be there. (I barely even noticed that little guy before reading this book!)
Anyway, there’s a passage I wanted to share with you.
“Part of the difficulty in encouraging Americans to appreciate the sushi experience was getting them to relinquish control. In America, you were considered a sophisticated eater if you insisted on having things a certain way. To really experience sushi, you had to let the chef decide what was best for you. It was hard for Americans to do. That was why the most uncompromising Japanese sushi chef in L.A. - a man named Kazunori Nozawa, more...
Well, my daughter’s filming wrapped up last week, so now our lovely family is reunited and we’re adjusting to yet another new normal.
I don’t know if you’ve ever spent any time on a set, but here’s something I’ve learned. There is A LOT of time spent waiting. Often in the dark. And in silence. That means there’s been A LOT of time to think.
Since I love using my time effectively, I got to thinking about why this year has been exceptional. If you tuned in last week, you’ll remember (maybe) that despite its challenges, 2020 has been one of the best years of my life.
I wanted to pinpoint 3 precise reasons that have contributed to my remarkable year and share them with you. Why?
Because maybe 2020 hasn’t been awesome for you and you’d like to finish on a higher note.
Or, maybe it’s been an exceptional year for you, too, and you’d like to make it even better.
I didn’t set out to focus on the...
Do you remember your first thoughts when you heard things were going into lockdown?
I was on set with my daughter, Zoe, who’s filming Season 2 of the Netflix Series, Black Summer. The director gathered around all the cast and crew (and me, since I don’t fit into either of those categories) and said that we would be going on a 2 week break. From there we would see what was going to happen.
I remember feeling disappointed because Zoe was having so much fun living her dream, but I also thought it was going to be an amazing opportunity for people to do some introspection and deep self-care. My mind literally thought, “This is wonderful! People will now be able to meditate and journal and do all sorts of other things that will really change their lives!”
Less than a minute later, I heard someone say, “This is awesome! I’m going to get a Playstation on the way home and play for 2 weeks straight!”
“Ok,” I thought, “I guess not...
The other day, I was laying in bed thinking about all of the wild and weird things I’ve done in the name of personal development. Perhaps you’d like to sneak a peek at a few of them? Just make sure you take off your Supreme Court Justice cap (because you may be tempted to judge some of them!)
These adventures happened at various courses I attended all over North America; on beaches in Mexico, lavender fields in California, mountains in British Columbia, hotel ballrooms all over the place, at the foot of a Rocky Mountain glacier, oh... and even in a yurt in an old growth rainforest.
Ok, are you ready? Here’s an abbreviated list of ways I’ve abandoned my comfort zone.
-walked on fire
-hiked up a mountain with bricks in my backpack
-stood on my chair in a room of 400+ people, yelling, “Pick Me!” when everyone else just politely raised their hands
-skinny dipped in the ocean in the dark (terrifying)
If you tuned in last time, you’ll know that the topic of discussion was dealing with the unknown. If you didn’t read last week’s message, then I guess it’s still unknown to you (hee hee). Click here to read it now. Then you won't have FOMO.
Did you happen to ponder how you deal with the unknown? Another way of asking that question is to consider how much time you spend worrying. Ruminating and stressing out are the most popular ways of dealing with the unknown, if you haven’t yet trained your mind.
I love the saying that worrying is like rocking very exuberantly* in a rocking chair with the expectation of getting somewhere. It’s a whole lot of effort with no results. (*the exuberant part is my own wording… most sayings don’t use that fancy word, but I like the mental picture it creates… exuberant rocking.)
Ok, I just checked the original quote, and it looks like my own saying is way off, even without the juicy adverb....
How do you feel about the unknown?
As we discussed last week (or rather, I discussed and you read), times are weird.
Have you noticed that you feel a little lost? Or perhaps you’ve observed that you’re feeling a distinct decrease in your sense of control.
With all the energetic shifts lately, as a human collective, we’re being called to rise to some new challenges.
One of the main invitations for us right now is to get more comfortable with the unknown.
Many people live in a state of low-grade worry and fear, when it comes to the future. We’re often taught that bad things could happen in the upcoming weeks/months/years, and so the most logical response is to be distrustful and vigilant. The world is out to get us, so it’s a good idea to plan for the worst and control as much as we can.
Wow. When it’s down in writing like that, it seems pretty intense, doesn’t it?
If that’s your current way of being, do you really want to...
I do this amazing practice called Sitting for Guidance that I learned from my mentors, Marci Shimoff & Debra Poneman. Most days, I get out my journal with the intention of communicating with my higher self to see what comes through.
Many days, it’s kind of a list of things to do. Other days, the practice reveals ideas that I never could have made up. And then other times, it’s full of encouragement and deep wisdom.
Here’s the message I’ve been getting lately: write, write, write, Write, WRITE!
It seems like Spirit is trying to tell me something…
And so here we are; me writing, you reading - a match made in heaven. I realize I’ve been out of touch with you. And sometimes things like that are ok. Until they’re not. Which brings us to this point.
Here’s what I would like to share with you.
Although the Great Pause (pandemic) has been stressful for many people, I’ve truly never been happier. Perhaps if I share a few...
One day, when I was in high school, I made an important discovery. I was on my bed, crying dramatically about something (perhaps I just got dumped, or cut from a sports team, or my souffle had fallen). There was sobbing, flailing, tears streaming, when all of a sudden, I noticed that there was something positively delicious about being sad.
Have you ever noticed that allowing yourself to fully experience sadness feels really, really good?
If not, maybe you’ve been too scared to feel sad and you haven’t received the pleasure that’s hidden in sadness.
Here’s the thing about uncomfortable emotions like sadness. We spend a lot of energy avoiding them or suppressing them and so we’re never really able to receive the full benefits.
All emotions are valuable and have a purpose. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t exist.
Sadness is worth embracing for the following reasons:
1. A function of sadness is connection (as was brilliantly illustrated in...