A New Gratitude Adventure For You

May 24, 2019

Gratitude changes everything. Here are some ways I've used gratitude to make my life better in the last few hours:

1. I was looking at an income statement and feeling like it wasn't very high. Then I switched my mindset to say, "I'm so grateful for that income. A year ago I would have done anything to have that regular income (well, not anything, which is why I didn't have regular income... I wouldn't go so far as to get a "regular job" or train circus animals or peddle vacuums on a street corner). So anyways, I switched to a thankful place, and immediately felt so good about that income.

2. My husband did the dishes this morning. Amazing, right? But my inner critic who is often a fanatical perfection-oriented German when it comes to things being spic and span kept spotting bits of food and grease on the "clean" dishes. It took some inner work, but I switched into the mindset of feeling grateful that my husband does dishes, got up early to do them and made breakfast...

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Belonging, Flattering Headwear and Doing Weird Stuff

May 15, 2019

When we moved to our new place (almost a year ago, so I guess it's not that new), one of the things I was most excited about was living right across the street from a huge sportsplex. There's simply no excuse not to use it and I've been loving it.

I anticipated that I would increase my fitness, which has happened, but I didn't realize it would help me in unpredictable ways. Here's a hidden benefit of spending time at the gym.

You can do really weird stuff and feel like you totally fit in.

Want to know some of the weird stuff I've witnessed?

• an athlete running on a track while pulling a giant heavy contraption fastened to her body with some sort of harness
• a guy making his way around the track by throwing punches in various combinations
• a dude running on a treadmill breathing very loudly, moaning intermittently and also yelling encouraging phrases to himself (and anyone else nearby)
• a contest to see who could balance the longest on a foam...

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Can Struggling Be Fun?

May 13, 2019

I just finished a Challenge-With-A-Capital-C at my gym where we had 44 days to complete 30 classes in yoga and/or spin cycling. I ended up doing 39 classes and in the process, learned a whole bunch of interesting stuff about myself. I thought you might be interested too, and I'll tell you why in a little bit. 

The main reason I signed up for the Challenge was because of the amazing prizes. There's a $1500 credit at Fairmont Resorts up for grabs, along with a year of massages and some other enticing paraphernalia. ( I totally did not know how to spell that word. Who knew there was a second 'r' in there? Did you? I didn't.)

Back to the Challenge. Before it started, I had been going to the gym regularly and doing my own thing. Riding bikes, rowing, stair climbing, lifting some weights, running some laps on the track, etc. I had been enjoying it very much, and at the same time, kind of coasting. I was physically working hard and kind of thought I was at my fitness...

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Why Self-Care Can Be Confusing (and how the lotus flower can help)

Apr 27, 2019

The other day, I posted on Facebook about an upcoming workshop I'm doing in Calgary, the Self-Care Pop Up. One of the comments that came back was a woman who said her ideal self-care would be getting a massage everyday.

While that does sound divine, it's one of the top mistakes I find that people make with self-care.

Let's say that self-care is a lotus flower. When you think of said lotus flower, what comes to mind?

I'm guessing the flower, right?


The same thing happens when we think of self-care. We tend to focus on activities that nourish our bodies, which is definitely a good thing. Buuuuut, it's not the whole thing.

The flower part of the lotus is only one aspect of its existence. It's the part that you can see and so it's that part that you focus on.  

When you consider the other part of the lotus flower, it's definitely not as appealing. Under the surface, beneath the glorious, appealing, colourful eye candy, is the slimy, murky, convoluted ball of roots. Who...

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Insights from My Burnt Breakfast

Apr 12, 2019

Oh this being human... there's so much to learn. Take this morning, for example.

First of all, Paul (my beloved) and I slept through the alarm. That meant that there wasn't quite enough time to make the oatmeal I wanted. Paul suggested I make a tasty melange I've made in the past because it would be speedier. 

It's this amazing blend of cooked apples in coconut oil, with peanut butter, and honey. Then it gets combined with other fresh fruit. Today's selection was mango, blueberries and capeberries (those tangy yellow berries that come with their own little leafy jacket). Finally, I planned to top it with the buckwheat and oat granola I made earlier this week along with some maple cinnamon coconut flakes. It was going to be so good!

 I was happily bustling about, cutting the fruit and getting the bowls out, when I opened the lid to the apple pan. "Ohhhhhh noooooooo!" I cried out dramatically. "It's allllllllll burnt!" 

The bottom of the pan was a crispy...

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Are You Making These Self-Care Mistakes Before Bed?

Apr 05, 2019

I was chatting with a friend who works in the health industry recently who said by her estimate, more than 80% of people don't sleep well or feel rested in the morning. What do you think?

I wouldn't count myself in that 80% because I've spent time educating myself on great rest, and most importantly, I've put what I've learned into practice.

A lot of my energy comes from the self-care practices I've put in place before I head off to slumber sanctuary.

Curious about the self-care mistakes you might be making before bed?

WARNING: you might feel defensive when you read the mistakes, and your clever mind might start to make up excuses. I'm not attacking anyone here. I'm just sharing what choices I've made (backed up by sleep experts) that help me get a great night's sleep.

Ok, here are the mistakes:

Mistake #1. Watching stress-inducing TV, movies or videos before bed. That includes the news. Your subconscious notices everything you consume and the couple of hours...

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This is Self-Care in Action

Feb 22, 2019

Read this message carefully because this is how Courageous Self-Care makes your life better. Yes, it's a real life example and it's fresh, meaning it happened this very morning.

My kids go to a school that has a modified year-round calendar. That means they have different holidays from the regular public system. For years, these holidays have been a blessing and a major challenge for me. I love being productive and getting stuff done, particularly stuff involving Courageous Self-Care. I also love my kids and want to ensure their holidays are fun and filled with merrymaking.

In the past, I've tried many different approaches to this conundrum:

  • work while Zoe and Oakley are at home and encourage them to make their own fun
  • find other people to look after them so I can keep working
  • arrange playdates so they are occupied while I work
  • not do any work and spend the entire time with them (usually 10 days of holidays)

None of these approaches felt like a sustainable solution. There...

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You Won't Believe What My Friend Called Me!

Feb 08, 2019

In my Courageous Self-Care Facebook Community, I have a daily question/reflection. I'm often the only one who answers the questions, but I find it very useful to think about my answers. The questions are like little guideposts for my week.

Today's question was about honouring our Feminine Energy. I call it Feminine Energy Fridays and the reflection asks what you will be doing to tune into your creative, mysterious, flowing energy.

Here's what I wrote: 

As I was getting into the energy of today, I noticed that there were many things that I wanted to get done, and I also noticed that I felt tired. On these kind of days, I like to honour both of those truths. Rather than push through and just accomplish, I alternate between working and reading. Each session is quick, like about 25 minutes of work and then a chapter of my book. I like the brief sections of time and feel like both sides of me are getting attention.

As I learn more about myself by practicing Courageous...

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Ready to Boost Your Energy?

Jan 31, 2019

A few weeks ago, I got an email from a woman named Karen Preysnar, who wanted to interview me for her online summit about self-care and energy.

That request told me how much the world has changed since I started Courageous Self-Care almost 3 years ago. Initially, self-care wasn't really something that people were talking about, but now, there are entire summits devoted to the idea. How exciting! If you feel like doing an excitement jig, you go right ahead.

Of course, I had to interview Karen on the Courageous Self-Care Podcast too. Listen to the podcast here.

Here's a little more info about the Take Back Your Energy Summit. (Of course I agreed to be one of the speakers!)

The Take Back Your Energy summit will help you shift out of the daily habits that drain you, and into the best version of yourself. I invite you to tune in so you can create more vitality, joy & passion in your life.

I’ll be joining 21 wellness experts, healers, meditators and...

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Why the New Marie Kondo Netflix Show Left Me Feeling Disappointed

Jan 25, 2019

The title of this post made me a little uncomfortable. Here's why.

Growing up, I learned to avoid conflict. I was definitely a boat non-rocker. That meant that I mostly kept my opinions to myself, lest I create unwanted disharmony.

Over the last few years, I've been unlearning that tendency and giving my two cents worth more often. (What else can you get for two cents these days? I think that's actually a great price for an opinion).

Soooo, when I wrestled with the wording of this post's title, I felt a little twinge of discomfort about expressing my opinion. In the past, that would have stopped me in my tracks. I'm learning more and more, though, that I get to choose to be fully me and if that doesn't jive with other people, oh well. (I'm happiest doing the jive with my beloved husband, anyway. We have some pretty slick moves.)

Ok, so now that you know the backstory, I can get to my point. My first point. I have a few. 

Point #1

I was super excited to see that...

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