New Video: How to Find Confidence in Yourself Using This Secret Self Care Strategy

HOW TO FIND CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF USING THIS SECRET SELF CARE STRATEGY// If you’ve been wondering how to fully express yourself and how to find yourself as a person, this is the video for you. You’ll learn how to practice effective self care by using internal self care strategies, and strategic self care in the form of dancing for stress release and anti stress dancing. Join Christina Marlett, founder of Courageous Self-Care for self care coaching, and advice on how to use dance for self care,  and to dance anti stress.

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Would you like to be more confident? Well, who wouldn't? I've got a secret self-care strategy that is going to build your confidence in a way that is both effective and fun. I'm Christina Marlett, creator of Courageous Self-Care. Today, I'm going to show you how to build confidence in yourself using this secret self-care strategy. For the best advice on how to practice self-care that goes beyond bubble baths, chocolate, and wine, be sure to subscribe to this channel, the Courageous Self-Care channel, and hit the bell to be notified when a new video is posted every Thursday. If you would like to have more confidence in yourself, self-care may not be the go-to strategy that comes to mind, but today I'm going to show you a secret self-care strategy that is going to build you confidence and help you learn how to more fully express yourself.

I've used this process with every single one of my clients around the world with incredible results. Today, lucky you, it is your turn. Be sure to stick around to the end of the video because I have a created a resource that you are going to absolutely love. I've divided today's information up into three parts. Part one is called the super secret strategy to boosting your confidence. Are you ready for the big reveal? Now, I know it's a super secret strategy because it's something that I created and it's called ugly awkward dancing. Okay, what is that? Ugly awkward dancing is not dancing like Elaine on Seinfeld, although it may look like that. What it refers to is the big elephant in the room.

So many people I meet say, "I can't dance," or if I say, "I created something called ugly awkward dancing," they say, "Oh, that's exactly what I do." There's an important distinction here. There is dance as an art form. However, if you never did take dance lessons, it doesn't mean you can't dance because dance is an essential human experience. Every single indigenous culture around the world for millennia has relied on dance to connect with their bodies, to connect with themselves, with each other as a community and with spirit. Dance is incredibly powerful. The reason I'm referring to it as ugly awkward dancing is just to address that elephant in the room. It doesn't matter how it looks. It's about how it feels.

Part two, how and why does ugly awkward dancing work to build your confidence? Dance is about how it feels, not about how it looks. I did grow up tap dancing, competing, and it was all about how it looked, never about how it felt. It had to be perfect so that I could win the gold medals that I loved decorating my room with. It wasn't until my mid 30s that I learned that dance could be done in a different way. It didn't have to be choreographed. You didn't have to win prizes at it or compete. It could be just for the joy of feeling alive. Now, researchers were fascinated to learn that dance is the only known way of combining and connecting mind, body, spirit, and emotions simultaneously all at once. Yoga doesn't do that. Meditation doesn't do that. Only dance. Plus, neurologists studied what the brain looked like during dance and they were fascinated to learn that the communication center of the brain was lit up. Not only are you connecting all four of those parts of you, you're also communicating to yourself, to others, and to spirit your incredible joy of being alive and the ability of moving.

How does it work to build your confidence? Well, I call it the dance playground. Growing up competing, I had a certain level of confidence that I could portray as a dancer, but there were definitely other parts of my life where I had very little confidence. It wasn't until I learned to focus on, in particular, in the dance playground, where no one gets hurt, that if you focus on how it feels rather than how it looks, first of all, you develop a much better relationship with your body. Secondly, your confidence starts to build because when you play in the dance playground, then it trickles out into other areas of your life. If you're learning to feel more confident in your movement in your body, pretty soon, you'll start to notice that your confidence is being built up in other areas of your life as well.

Now, why is ugly awkward dancing a form of self-care? It is a form of self-care because it's combining all four of those areas, mind, body, spirit, and emotions, at the same time, and it is an incredible state changer. No matter what's going on in your life, if you take a few minutes to dance, I guarantee 100% of the time you will feel better. It can be alone. It can be in a room with others. The key is to focusing on how it feels, not on how it looks. That's going to trickle out into other areas of your life. Once I started leaving that perfectionism behind by playing in the dance playground, getting more confident in my body and in myself and in what my body wanted to do rather than being told what to do, I was able to start living my life in a way that was all about how it felt rather than how it looked to others. That is an incredible form of self-care because the greatest journey that we're going on in this lifetime, the adventure of our lifetime, is discovering who we are and sharing that amazing specimen of humanity with others. The dance playground is a wonderful way to get there.

Are you willing to give ugly awkward dancing a try? Go ahead and leave a comment and let us know what kind of dance you love to do and if you've ever done ugly awkward dancing before and if you are onboard to use it as a tool to boost your confidence. Don't be shy. This is a wonderful time to practice expressing yourself using a little bit of confidence so go ahead and leave a comment. Part three, do some ugly awkward dancing every day for the next seven days. Okay, my friends. This is where the rubber hits the road and you get to decide, "Do I want to be more confident? Am I willing to create a better connection with my body and with my mind and with spirit and with my emotions and to watch my confidence blossom?" That is all you need to do, put it into action. I encourage you to take out your calendar. I'm a big fan of scheduling things on my trusty phone. Put it in there that you're going to dance every day for the next seven days. It can be ugly awkward dancing. It can be beautiful spectacular dancing. Make sure you do it. I recommend doing it first thing in the morning because that's when your motivation is the highest.

Now you know how to find confidence in yourself using this super secret self-care strategy of ugly awkward dancing, but are you actually going to do it? People are notoriously unreliable when it comes to self-care. They need some sort of accountability. I had an idea. For the next seven days in my Courageous Self-Care Facebook community I am going to post your ugly awkward dancing song of the day. That way, you have no excuse. All you need to do is join the group, look for the song, do your dance, and go about your day, plus watch your confidence grow. There's no way to lose. It's a win-win. Be sure to join our Courageous Self-Care Facebook community. It's a group of like-minded people who are building their self-care muscle one day at a time. The link to join that is in the description below this video.

Now, I sure hope that you liked this video, that it was useful to you. If it was, please give it a like and leave a comment, share it with your friends. Let's get this ugly awkward dancing spreading out all over the nation. Be sure to subscribe to this Courageous Self-Care channel. I know you'll want to watch next week because I'm going to be revealing three super effective ways to get back to sleep at night when your mind is going bananas. Thank you so much for joining me today. I'm Christina Marlett, creator of Courageous Self-Care and your self-care coach. If you're looking for a bit more of a personal experience, I have a program every month called the Monthly Self-Care Tune Up. If you've been giving way more to others than you've been giving to yourself, join us for this intimate small group coaching session that happens once a month. If it's the only self-care you do, it will be enough because we go deep. You'll see some other videos popping up on the screen here. I have been having fun making them for you. If you've got a few minutes, click on one and see what's up in that video. Thank you so much for watching. I'm really looking forward to connecting with you again next time. Bye bye for now.

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