HOW TO FORGIVE AND LET GO OF ANGER: SIMPLE 3 STEP PROCESS// Want to learn how to forgive? In this video, you’ll learn how to forgive and let go. Forgiveness is a crucial part of personal development. When you forgive yourself, you experience healing, you let go of anger and you learn how to feel more free. If you want to learn how to let go of anger and resentment, watch this video for forgiveness techniques, forgiveness skills, and forgiveness strategies. You’ll also find out why forgiveness is important and how you can let go of anger and resentment. This video focuses on for self-care. Forgiveness is an important aspect of Courageous Self-Care.
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Are you stuck in anger and resentment? Forgiveness is the solution for letting go. Watch this video to learn my simple three step formula so that you can forgive and let go of anger.
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If you feel anger brewing just below the surface and it's effecting your physical, mental and emotional well-being, by the end of this video you'll know three simple steps that will bring you emotional freedom and so much more energy. I've proven this formula on dozens of my own private clients and now it's your turn.
When we feel angry at someone for having done something to us, it can be tough to forgive, but it is truly the most effective way to let go and move forward. Here is where you get to take full responsibility for your life. Being the victim means staying stuck and angry. Being the victor means getting over yourself and taking action with this simple three step formula I call The Magic Moment.
Anger is just like any other strong emotion. Our emotions are actually only designed to hang around for about 90 seconds. They are meant to move through us. Here's the clue, the word emotion, most of it is made of the word motion. And so when we get stuck in our emotions, it just means that we haven't learned an effective way to help them move through. That's what the magic moment does. Its got three simple steps.
Some emotions are uncomfortable and that's why so many of us use many different tactics to help suppress emotions. It's with different behaviors like drugs, alcohol, binging out on TV, gambling, shopping. All of those done in excess are ways of suppressing our emotions. But you don't have to do, what great news. The magic moment will give you the tools to be able to feel your emotion, acknowledge it, and let it move through.
Here's step number one. Let's use anger as an example. This will work with any strong emotion. Step number is I feel. So, when you are in the throws of a wild, chaotic, uncomfortable, unpleasant emotion, the first step is to notice how you are feeling. Yes, it can be challenging to notice how you're feeling when you want to lash out, or you want to punish someone, or you want to hold on to that anger. So step number one simply means either out loud, maybe if you're by yourself or in your head noticing and saying, "I feel angry." And notice it's not "I am angry." When you put I am in front of any statement it makes it very powerful. And of course we are not anger. We are ... Our emotions are temporary and we want to help them move through. So the key words are, I am feeling angry or I am feeling whatever.
Step number two is called I sense. Did you know that each emotion that you feel also has a physical corresponding sensation. That was brand news to me when I first learned it but it has proven to be true. A sensation of an uncomfortable, unpleasant emotion usually is something like tightness, pain, clenching, a dark sensation, really dense. And so when we learn to identify where it is in our body, what we're doing is giving that emotion our full attention. Emotions are like two year olds. All they want is to be acknowledged so that they can move along on their way.
Step number one, you are noticing I am feeling angry in this moment. Step number two noticing where that anger is a physical manifestation in your body. So it might be something like, "I am feeling angry and I notice it is tightness in my throat." Or "I am feeling angry and I notice it as tension across the back of my shoulders.", "I am feeling angry and I notice it as turmoil in my gut." Different people sense their emotions in different places.
Comment below on what emotion you're experiencing right now. Don't be shy. It is important to practice this habit to make it second nature and it also works for the emotions that are quite pleasant, that feel good, instead of making them move along their way, it actually intensifies the pleasant experience of that positive emotion. So it might be something like, "I am feeling interested and I sense it in my brown." Something like that. So please share in the comment what you're feeling and sensing right now.
Step number three. Here's where the magic really happens. So we've got feel. We've got I sense. Step number three is I move. We're helping that motion part of the emotion. And what you wanna do is bring movement to wherever you're experiencing that emotion that's a physical sensation. So in the anger example, "I am feeling angry and sensing it as tightness in my throat." Bringing some movement to it. It could be head circles. It could be, in fact turning on some music and letting that emotion move through you. There is magic in movement. Our emotions are not meant to get stuck for hours, days, weeks, and years. They are meant to move through us. So by getting that physicality in your body, you are helping keep your emotional state extremely healthy.
Now you know what to do when you're feeling a strong emotion like anger. But how can you turn this process into a habit? Well, I've taken a chapter from my book, How Ugly Awkward Dancing Changes Everything and turned it into a PDF that you can download for free. The link is in the description below. Also if you want to join a community of women just like you who are seeking to improve their self care and enhance the quality of their lives, please join the courageous self-care community. Where I share up to date self-care strategies to help you take better care of yourself so that you can give with love and joy, rather than with resentment and irritation.
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Thank you so much for joining me today. I'm Christina Marlett, the creator of Courageous Self-Care and your self-care coach. I look forward to connecting with you again next time. Bye bye for now.