How to Get People to Treat You Better

Uncategorized Jun 21, 2022

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  • Be surprised and delighted by noticing how far you’ve come already in 2022
  • Feel deep gratitude for your life and the goodness in it
  • Get more clarity on what’s working and what’s next

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In other news, here’s something that’s been in my awareness lately: 

The way others treat you is a direct reflection of how you treat yourself. Which part of yourself, you may ask? Well, it’s the part of you that’s very young, that’s all about feeling and that’s looking for your unconditional love.

As a general rule, people tend to treat that young and feeling part of themselves pretty poorly. There’s a lot of ignoring, abandoning and shunning. 

You probably can’t imagine treating an adorable little child that way, and yet, it’s very common to treat the young version of you that way. 

Here’s what I’ve been doing lately to ensure that that kind of internal experience shifts.

If the feeling part of me feels scared, I say: Part of me that’s scared; I love you and I’m here with you. I’m never going away. I’m right here with you always and forever.

If the feeling part of me feels angry, I say: Part of me that’s angry; I love you and totally accept you. It’s okay to feel angry and I’m here with you.

If the feeling part of me feels helpless over others (meaning that I can’t control outcomes or how other people act, which can be oh so annoying) I say; Part of me that feels helpless over others, I love you. I’m here with you and it’s not just you and me; the Divine is here with us too. We are loved and supported. We’re a triple threat! We’re not alone.

Probably you’re getting the idea. Any part of you that you wish was different, any part of you that you think needs to be fixed or gotten rid of, any part of you that you have a hard time accepting… the solution is love and acceptance.

When you offer love to that young part of you, it no longer needs to get your attention in such a big way. I’ve often noticed that the intense feelings just melt when I turn to love. 

It’s also an incredible relief to know that we really don’t have to fix any part of us. There’s nothing broken or wrong. There’s simply an opportunity for more love.

This approach has been one of my go-to practices lately and it’s helped me through all sorts of intense experiences. I hope it’s helpful for you too.

So to recap, to get other people to treat you better, turn towards the inside and focus on what you can do in there. You’ll be amazed at what shifts on the outside as a result.

May you have a love-filled week inside and out, and Happy Solstice! The light is pouring in so I hope you are wide open to receive it.

With vibrant love and whole-hearted courage,


>Creator of Courageous Self-Care

>Signed off mussels forever (the last time I ate them, I just decided that I never need to taste them again)

>Never signing off of brownies though (especially the new superfood version of brownies now available at the Light Cellar in Calgary - you must go; but save some for me)

PS - One more time: Click here to register for the complimentary ½ Year Review session happening this Saturday, June 25 at 9am mountain/8am pacific. It’s going to be valuable, sensational and fun.