Baking and Braiding and Biding My Time

Uncategorized Aug 23, 2019

As you may or may not know, I'm really fascinated by our relationship with Time (it gets a capital T here because it's kind of a big deal). Befriending Time is even one of the 12 Foundational Skill Sets of Courageous Self-Care.

How we interact with Time affects every second of our day, not to mention our life. It's an idea worth thinking about. It's also worth taking action to improve that relationship.

I've had some thoughts and observations recently that I wanted to share with you. 

When my daughter, Zoe, was little, I had visions of us baking together because that's something I loved doing with my mom. Zoe, however, had zero interest in whipping up magical creations in the kitchen with me. I was disappointed for a while but then accepted it and carried on having my own baked goods fun.

Fast forward about 12 years, and to my surprise, Zoe LOVES being in the kitchen. In fact, she spent all of yesterday evening making healthy donuts, cookies and scones for her teachers and friends. It totally filled her up (the baking; not the eating) and she was beaming from ear to ear as she showed me her creations.

Interesting. What does that have to do with Time? Hang on to your horses; I'll get there in a moment.

Back to my daughter's childhood. Another thing I looked forward to when Zoe was little was me doing her hair. I enjoy braiding and brushing and having all sorts of hair styling fun, but she would have none of it. Again, I felt disappointed, but let it go...eventually.

In the last year, Zoe has fallen in love with full self expression through hairdos. If we don't know where she is, we've come to figure out that she's in the bathroom, trying out some new fancy hairstyle.

Here's where Time comes in. I have an affirmation that I love to use that goes: I have perfect timing. I've used it for years, but just recently realized that it goes beyond what I even thought.

If I would have forced Zoe to partake in baking and hairstyling before she was ready, there would have been so many battles, especially since she's a Taurus. Instead, I had enough sense to let both of those ideals go. I made the effort to detach, and look what happened! She ended up loving both things in perfect timing.

Detachment is so important when it comes to timing. We humans, especially the highly productive and eager ones among us, want things to happen NOW. That attachment creates energetic tension which makes it even harder for what we want to find us. 

It's like having a brick wall between what is and what we want. When we let go and trust that things will happen in perfect timing, that energetic wall dissipates and far less effort is required on our part.

Please note, that I am writing this message as much for me as I am for you. There are places in my life where it is definitely challenging to let go of my expectations and trust that things will work out when the timing is just right. It can be sooooo hard to wait!!!!

That's what was in my heart and on my mind today. Thank you for reading all the way to the bottom. It makes me happy to know that you spent some Time diving a little deeper into Courageous Self-Care today.

I encourage you to play with the mantra/affirmation "I have perfect timing". It's super powerful in moments of stress and also over the long run.

With kilos of love and bales full of courage,


PS - I woke up way earlier than intended this morning (4:40am) and my mind decided it wanted to process many things rather than go back to sleep. That's why I made the podcast for you called How to Get More Energy When Your Sleep Sucked.  Have a listen by clicking here.


One of the things my mind wanted to mull over while I wasn't sleeping this morning was how much I love creating meaningful community with genuine interaction. Check out the Courageous Self-Care Community to increase your sense of belonging and positive relationships.